Kerstin Pilz

Author, Writing Coach & Retreat Leader


Kerstin Pilz

Author, Writing Coach & Retreat Leader

The front cover of the book Loving my Dying, Cheating Husband - A Whirlwind Romance Gone Wrong by Kerstin Pilz, Author.

A life-affirming tale

Written with humour, wisdom and unfailing kindness

"This book could be titled How To Save Your Own Life: wise, sad, uplifting."

Susan Johnson, author of Aphrodite’s Breath

Kerstin is childless by choice and married to her job when Gianni, a charming Italian, turns her life into a champagne-coloured fairy tale.

When Gianni is diagnosed with cancer soon after their runaway wedding, Kerstin becomes his dedicated carer. But when she discovers that he has been cheating on her all through their relationship, she is faced with a difficult choice: walk away, or continue to care for the man who betrayed her. She turns first to wine and then to therapy, eventually ending up in a Buddhist monastery. There she realises that finding a new way of loving her lying, dying husband might offer a chance to grow from her pain rather than be crushed by it. And to avoid liver damage.

Written with wisdom, humour, and unfailing kindness, this is a life-affirming tale of one woman’s search for better ways to love, grieve and forgive.

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"A book about flawed humans, complex grief, and what it means to live fully and love wholly despite it all."

Natasha Sholl, author of  Found, Wanting

About Kerstin

Kerstin grew up in Germany and travelled the world before settling in Australia, where she now calls the Wet Tropics of Far North Queensland home. She holds a PhD in Italian literature and spent most of her working life as an academic, teaching European languages and Intercultural Communication, in Australia, Italy, The Maldives and on a floating university campus aboard a cruiseship.

A qualified yoga teacher, she left academia to teach the healing power of writing and creative writing online and in writing retreats in Hoi An, Vietnam & Bali through: Write Your Journey.

She is widely published in her academic field, including a monograph and bookchapters with Oxford Publishing. Her travel features have appeared in The Australian, The Sydney Morning Herald and The New York Times. Loving My Lying Dying Cheating Husband is her debut memoir.

The Healing Power of Writing

The Healing Power of Writing


I discovered the healing power of writing when nothing else helped to quell the pain of heartbreak and loss.

Writing down my thoughts and feelings allowed me to process my grief and to make myself whole again.

My journal was my lifesaver, best friend and on-call therapist. And it can be yours too.

Research shows that personal writing promotes healing, stress reduction, personal growth and inner peace. It can help us let go of old storylines and memories that keep us stuck so that we can write empowered new self narratives. In my TEDx talk I share how everybody can benefit from this simple tool.

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